The Silver Linings - Part 3

Not All Journeys Require Haste: 

While driving my dog to the vet to be euthanized, I drove her around town for a long time.  She loved car rides and went back and forth between poking her head out the window and reaching over to give me doggie kisses as we drove ever so slowly up and down the winding city streets.  As always, she was having the time of her life.  I, on the other hand did not want the journey to end, because I knew it would be the last one.  As I drove slowly through the town, other cars whizzed by me, often honking their horns or flipping me off at my slow pace.  They were stuck in their rush-rush routines and could not stop to think that not all journeys required haste.  Some thought their journeys would last forever, yet they seldom do.  

Breaking The Routines:  

We all get into these routines, it is a part of our lives that we consciously do not see.  Waking up in the morning, drinking coffee, going to work, interacting with our spouse, walking the dog.  The things we do to get through the day that eventually become automatic.  

So what happens when those routines are broken for you?  Like being stuck in a hospital room for five weeks with a future that is uncertain or non-existent?  Well, you start to question those routines and their importance.  You are forced to stop and think about what you do and what you have time to do.  That need for haste and repetition becomes questionable.  Re-evaluation sinks in and you realize that you are trapped in those routines and they are not always beneficial.  That is one of the things that this brain tumor has taught me.  I have to realize that I am not driving the car, I am the dog with my tongue out the window.  This car ride does not last forever.

There are only a few really important things left to do, and I need to get busy. 

Body Awareness: 

One of the things that the Mayo Clinic has is the 'Portal'.  This is an app on your phone (don't go to the hospital without a smartphone) that tells you in real time exactly what the doctors know.  It will show you the results of everything that is measured, imaged or written about you in real time.  There is a lot more going on with you than just your weight.  This is the future of medicine, it is monitored on your wrist, on your phone and in the cloud.  It can tell you all those things that are going wrong long before symptoms ever show up, but you have to learn that they are there.  They are a routine that you have to learn but are usually ignored because other, faster routines take their place.  We teach ourselves through youth that we will live forever.  We don't.   

Lost & Found People / Hypocrisy:  

Probably the most profound event that has arisen out of this whole situation are the number of people that have cared about my well being.  Individuals that I do not even know, to friends that I assumed were long gone and forgotten.  They have made themselves known to me like long forgotten specters from my past, much like the ghosts from Charles Dickens 'A Christmas Carol'.  They remind me not to give up and wish me well.  Individually, their Facebook 'likes' and their well wishes are uplifting and gratifying, yet taken as a collective whole they prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are more than just a speck on the face of the earth with no real consequence.  There is a tie that binds some of us that is not visible and seldom realized.  I suppose they call it humanity or empathy.  Regardless, it does exist.  Conversely, it also shows those who are only fair weather friends who are only here for their own benefit at your expense.  These are the folks that never attend funerals, they only send flowers.  

Big Pharma / Little Healthcare:  

This is one of those things that I did not expect to question while I was undergoing treatment.  It is my attitude about socialized medicine.  Every major western government has some form of nationalized healthcare.  If you need to go to the doctor, you just go.  Cost is not a consideration.  I always thought that this should be a norm in this country as well (United States).  After having made it half way through my tumor therapy, I am not so sure.  The awful truth is, rich / powerful people get treated first and are treated better than those that 'expect' to be taken care of by the state. 

No national health care system is going to send a doctor to your door to remind you of how you should live, what you should eat, or test your mental state.  The individual has to be responsible for their own health.  If the individual wants to slowly kill themselves with their lifestyle, that should not be a burden on the system that the rest of us rely on.  The national healthcare system should be focused on the individual's understanding of the consequences of their lifestyle and not the expectation of 'free' healthcare after a lifetime of denial and the false ideal that they will live forever. 

"No One Gets Out Of Here Alive"

This is true, although we seldom give it much credence.  It isn't an open ended journey, there is an end to it.  There is a curse that no one should ever be blessed with, which is the date an hour of their own death.  If we knew this we would be fixated on it.  Whether from a sudden accident or a long term illness.  We live as though this date never exists, yet it is the most important and certain date of our lives.  We all need to focus on that date and what we need to do before it arrives.  All those routines won't kill you, but they will waste your time and shorten your life.